DEAR ABBY: I am 57 and have been married for 32 years to my husband, who retired from his full-time job last year. I still work full time. Since his retirement, he has been going to a bar once a week or so, spending a few hours visiting with the customers and staff.

The staff member is a younger, female bartender who he invites to our home bar for drinks. They have also established a social media relationship and send text messages. When I had an out-of-town trip planned,